Teaching children without overriding their free will

Question: I have been an elementary school teacher and I would like to focus more on teaching children's personality than on study. Whenever children did improper acts and such behaviours that do harm to other children and themselves, I used to punish them in a decisive way to treat their words and actions. When guiding children what criteria should I have in order to avoid projecting my own emotions or beliefs to them and to teach them to the extent that I do not override their free will? 



Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given at a conference in Seoul, Korea in 2017. 


A very important topic, my beloved, that not only applies in a teaching situation, of course, but also applies to parents. This is a topic where you need to be somewhat attuned to the individual child. There are children who are below the 48th level of consciousness and they do need to have a firm hand where the adult sets boundaries and lets the children know that they cannot go beyond these boundaries without suffering certain consequences. There are children that you simply cannot reason with and make them see why they should not be doing this, they need to have set a firm boundary. Otherwise their behaviour will simply escalate because what these children are asking for is actually the attention of that adult. They will keep acting out until they get that attention. It is in many cases entities or even smaller demons that can be working through children in order to create chaos and disruption both in the classroom and in other settings.

In such cases, you need to be firm as the teacher, otherwise you will lose the ability to even teach the class. There, of course, needs to be a system in the school where the children who are continuously acting out can either be put in a special class or receive some kind of counselling or be dealt with in other ways. But for most children it is possible to talk to them and to talk to them in a direct way that is just open and honest. You are explaining to them how you feel about their behaviour, how other children feel about their behaviour and therefore you ask them to stop this. 

Most children will be able to see that if their behaviour affects other people negatively, or affects the class and the environment in the class, then they will stop the behaviour. Generally speaking, it is always better to explain to children, and this, of course, requires you to overcome some of these traditional roles that, for example, Venus was talking about. You have the very traditional family role where the man and the woman are locked into a certain role but so are the children because they are considered to not be aware enough, intelligent enough, smart enough, mature enough. The adults think they cannot explain anything to children, they cannot reason with them. 

This is, in fact, not the case for many children, who even at a young age can be quite aware and therefore you can explain things to them. This can be difficult when you come from a culture where you traditionally do not explain to children, but tell them what to do and then punish them if they do not comply. You can experiment with this personally in the classroom, but you also need to be aware of the culture you are living in and that it actually will require some change in the educational system before you may be able to fully do this. 

Now, what I would like to say to both parents and teachers is that you need to look at every aspect of your lives as an opportunity to grow spiritually. It is clear that when you are dealing with children, there can often be situations where children, for a variety of reasons, are acting in a way that tests you. They are, so to speak, pushing your emotional buttons and you need to look at this as an opportunity to see what emotional patterns you have and then work on solving them. You cannot be fulfilled as a teacher or as a parent if your children are continually pushing your buttons so you feel you are not in control of the situation or in control of yourself. 

Once you get to the point where you have resolved the underlying psychological issue, then you will be able to deal with children in a completely different way. When you have no buttons to push, then the children will realize this subconsciously and all of a sudden they will be free from this pattern where they are trying to provoke you or misbehave. You can therefore establish a more aware, a more mature and more enjoyable, relationship with them.



Copyright © 2017 Kim Michaels

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