Question: Is there a destiny that we should go through in our lives? For example; is the relationship between parents and son/daughter a part of our destiny, and what is the meaning of that relationship?
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given at a conference in Seoul, Korea in 2016.
“Destiny” is a word that has been abused by many different cultures and by many different peoples. There is no destiny in the way it is normally understood by many people in the sense that something is preordained and is either unavoidable, or is the way it is meant to be. In the physical octave, when you take embodiment here, everything is subject to free will.
Now, we have, of course, taught that you have a Divine plan that you chose before you came into embodiment. It is clear that what you want to do is to increase your attunement with your Divine plan so you can remember it consciously.
There are very few people who can remember their Divine plan after they are born into a physical body because the density of the physical realm (and of all four realms of the material universe) makes it very hard to remember. But the difference here is that the Divine plan, as we teach it, is something that you chose before you came into embodiment. You were not forced by this, although, of course, when you created your Divine plan, you looked at your previous karma, your previous lifetimes, you looked at your psychology and certain momentums you had and you decided what you wanted to overcome, how you wanted to grow in this lifetime. You also decided what gift you wanted to bring.
This is something you have chosen and it is not something forced upon you. We never force you to choose your Divine plan, we simply guide and help you to choose what you decide is best for you. Now, it is clear, that part of your Divine plan is to choose your parents and your close relatives, such as brothers and sisters, even sometimes people you meet and certainly people you end up marrying and the children you might have.
You could say that when you are in embodiment, there is, of course, a certain potential for your relationship with these people. In terms of your parents, for the majority of people in embodiment today, they have chosen those parents because they have karma with their parents. This means that you do not need to look at your parents as beings that you have a long history with, in the sense that you want to stay with them after this lifetime. In many cases, your highest potential is that you transform that karma in this lifetime so you do not have to embody with the same people.
I am not saying that all people chose their parents because of karma. There are certainly examples of people who had a positive momentum of knowing these lifestreams from the past. Therefore, you chose to be their son or daughter in this lifetime. But in general, it is safe to assume that you have some karma with your parents and other relatives. It is therefore important to use the violet flame and our invocations to consume that karma so that you can be free; either to not embody with them in the future, or to do so without having the karma and therefore being able to have a more positive interaction.
It is also a possibility that you can balance your karma with your parents in this lifetime. Therefore, you do not have to have anything to do with them in the sense that you do not have karma to balance. It is possible that you can then change your relationship so you look at your parents differently and decide what positive interaction you want to have with them. It is also possible that you can look at this and you can have an intuitive sense that you have balanced your karma with your parents. Therefore, you are free to move on and it is acceptable for you to make the choice to not have any close relationship to your parents for the rest of this lifetime.
I say this specifically because so many people in Asia have been brought up to think that they have to be loyal to their parents forever, or at least for the rest of this lifetime, but maybe even for future lifetimes. It is important for you to realize that you often embody with people because you have a karmic spiral, but by using the spiritual tools you can transform that energy and that spiral. Therefore, you can be free to move on to embody with people with whom you do not have karma. Or you can be free to ascend after this lifetime, which of course also makes it necessary for you to balance the karma you have with these close relatives.
Copyright © 2016 Kim Michaels